My Story
So, telling you the long story of how I lost and regained my zest for life could take a while. Instead I’ll cut it short and tell you that there was a long period of my life, when I felt increasingly unhappy and unfulfilled.
You don’t need to be in the gutter to know that something needs to change. You can feel it, can’t you?
After working my way up for 7 years to become a high-level manager in logistics, I started questioning – what it was all about?
You put your head down, aim for the next promotion. But when you get it, something is still missing, so you put your head down and aim for the next. However, if you are like me – how often do you put your head up and ask yourself – “Do I like the direction I’m going?”
The stress was invigorating initially, it was challenging, and I thought it was helping me become more successful. However, the high achievement/high stress environment started affecting me. I noticed there was a divide within my colleagues. Some were positive, happy and driven. Others, were despondent, depressed and defeated. I didn’t want that for myself.
I was also beginning to feel disillusioned, close to burn out and unappreciated. I realised I was heading in the wrong direction.
It didn’t take long before I suffered burnout, I was confused and exhausted. I didn’t feel I was doing well at work, as a mum or as a wife. . And if you’re not seeing yourself as successful, what do you see yourself as? I saw myself as a failure.
Trying to balance my work and personal life became increasingly difficult. I couldn’t work the 12-15 hour days I had previously. I wanted to spend time with my husband.
When I became pregnant, I realised that something needed to change.
After all, it wasn’t only me that my long hours and high stress was impacting. The difficulty in changing my expectations and that of my employer started negatively impacting my wellbeing and mental health.
Was this the turning point for me?
Looking back at it I can firmly say ‘Yes’ but at the time it didn’t feel like it.
You know how it is when you feel you’ve read every self-help book on how to improve your mood and wellbeing. Which I found to be great for understanding theory however there wasn’t one book that made me take the action necessary to actively make a change.
After trying counselling and CBT, I decided to see a life coach and that’s when the change really started happening. Coaching gave me the key which would allow me to change the reflection in the mirror to become the person I had the potential to be. To be who I truly was without the doubt and fears. I still see a life coach today!
Because I know that even as a coach myself, there will always be insights and solutions to help me with my progress that will fall into my blind spots. I’ve found it essential to maintaining and expanding my success). I love coaching as I like to think of it as a ‘selfie’ with no filter.
I spent several years training in NLP and life coaching, counselling, psychotherapy, nutritional therapy as well as studying psychology, neuroscience and the mindset of successful and healthy living. Training in these modalities allows me to pull on the best mix of resources available for personal growth.
The accumulation of training, research and experience has helped me formulate the coaching solution which I now use with clients all over the word. It allows them overcome their current plateau and grow from strength to strength without the risk of burnout.
Now looking back, my drive to be successful is ultimately what generated my sense of failure. Telling myself I had to do better and push myself harder was like whipping a horse… eventually something is going to break.
When I learnt to channel my drive and ambition in a constructive way, I start achieving my full potential in a sustainable way.
That is why I’m passionate about giving professional, ambitious women the tools they need to be successful in every area of their life before they reach breaking point.
Since starting my coaching practice, I’ve received several coaching awards. However what is more important to me, is that I have been able to help hundreds of clients across the globe, tap back into their inner zest for life.
My clients will tell you that I’m intuitive, insightful, caring and positive. I am your advocate and I will help you lift yourself up when you are feeling challenged. I will help you identify the route of the problem that is holding you back so you can get the outcome you want.
My process is easy and it just starts with a phone call.
Thank you so much for reading.
Bianca